I know this is a little late but since I was in California I got the opportunity to interview my mom. We went for a very long time without talking to each other. After a few years we started talking again. I am proud to say that we are closer than ever. I wish I had never lost touch with her but things happen in life and it changes people. Anyway here is what I asked her thanks to a friends blog. Now understand that I am the oldest of 14 children in my family but not all of them are blood children. Of the fourteen 5 are step children. So in question 4 my mom answered the question to her 8 remaining live children. One of our brothers died when he was just a baby.
#1. Whats the one thing you would have done differently as a mom?
I would have been more patient with you kids. I would have done more with you all. I would be more easy going and have more fun.
#2. Why did you choose to be with my father?
He was fun and easy going. We had a lot in common at the time. I choose your father because he made me feel alive. He was caring and giving and just all around fun to be with. I chose him because he was calm and collected and full of charisma. The biggest reason was because I loved him.
#3. In what ways do you think I am like you? And not like you?
You are like me in the way you care and give yourself to everyone especially your family. You live your life to the fullest and you have fun doing it. Your not like me in you have no fear. If you want something you go for it. I love that part of you. You never give up. You make things work out without a second thought.
#4.Which one of us kids do you like the best?
Quon- for your courage.
Gabe-for his strong sense of family
Theron-for his Strong ethics and values
Uriah-for his sense of adventure
Noah-for his easy going and fun ways
Keanu-for his constant need to succeed
Cheyenne- for her many talents
Shannon-for her abilities to just get and do whatever (no fear)
In all I like you all because you all have qualities in which I wish I had.
#5. Is there anything you wish you had told me but never have?
You were always such a loving, caring, giving person who always put everyone else before yourself. You should spend more Me time and take care of you. Don't feel guilty about doing it. You need to take care of yourself for all your kids and husband. If something happened to you where would they be. You care for life so patiently now its time for you.
#6. Do you think it is easier or harder to be a mom now than when you were raising our family?
It is easier and harder. When I was raising you all things weren't that hard. Times were different, but now things in the world are harder and money doesn't go far. Easier because I am older and more confident, harder because its just me doing it alone.
#7. Is there anything you regret not asking your parents?
In that sense not really because most of what they believed I really didn't agree with. My mom was always protective because of dad.
#8. Whats the best thing I can do for you right now?
Just be there when things are not right. Call more often and most certainly send more pictures of the family.
#9. Is there anything that you wish had been different between us or that you would still like to change?
No, all that has been changed already. We are closer and have a lot more in common. I do wish though that I had not let you stay with your grandma back then.
#10. When did you realize you were no longer a child?
When one day something came out of my mouth that sounded like my mother and that was scary.
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