OK I think I have finally hit my wall. The day went fine all day today until I went to go and get the kids from next door where they were playing. Well let me start from the beginning. When the kids went to bed last night I asked them both to clean their rooms when they got up in the morning. They both said fine and went to bed. Well when we all got up (it was to late to go to church because I forgot to set my clock and Dale didn't wake me up when he got home) they ate breakfast and then asked if they could go next door to play. I said yes despite the fact that they still hadn't cleaned their rooms. Anyway I let them play until about 7 and then went and got them. Once they got back in the house I asked them if they could please go and clean their rooms and not to turn on their TVs because they wont clean if it's on and Elyssa did it with no problem but DJ just plain out gave attitude about it and refused to clean. When I went to ask him again nicely he said no and slammed his door. I went to ask him to please stop slamming the doors because he was ruining the door frame and that if he didn't he would loose his door. Well as I walked away he said so what and slammed his door again so I went and took it off. He started to scream at me and tried to give me an ultimatum about if I gave his door back he would clean his room. I told him that I would give it back if he would just clean and he told me that he hated me and didn't want to live with me anymore because I sucked as a parent and was mean. So I told him calmly that if he was so unhappy here then he could call his grandpa and ask him if he could go and live with him. I even dialed the number for him. Anyway he didn't talk and so my dad called back and I told him what was going on and he talked to DJ and told him that he can't be disrespecting me like that and that if he kept it up he could just forget about going and spending the summers with him. He also told him that I was the parent and had every right to take his door away for slamming it and that he should apologize to me and just do the right thing which was to do as he was told. He also told him that even if he could go and live with him (even though he can't because my dad isn't home half the year because he works offshore) he would still have the same rules at his house that he has here because they are the same rule he gave me when I was younger. So he said fine and said goodbye to my dad and hung up. Of course he didn't do anything at first and when I retold him that if he would please clean his room and I would give him his door back he said now and slammed his foot into the wall and put a big hole in the wall. I didn't say anything about it and just calmly said to him again to please clean his room. He finally gave in and cleaned his room. I did give him back his door and told him that I love him and that there was nothing he could do to ever change that. I think he understands now that when I tell him to please do something and that I'm only doing it because it's in his best interest he will listen to me. Who knows. I guess time will tell. I know this is not the last fight we will have but hopefully it will be the last blow out we have.
Anyway through all that I am tired so I'm headed to bed. Blog at you later
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